Codependency Therapy Austin

When your worth feels tied to other people’s needs, it might be time to shift the focus back to you.

Codependency can sneak up on you. You might think you’re just being helpful, loyal, or caring—until one day you realize you’ve completely lost yourself in someone else’s life, moods, or problems.

Maybe you’ve found yourself constantly trying to “fix” or rescue others, even when it’s draining you. Maybe your boundaries are blurry, or you feel guilty saying no. Or maybe you don’t even know what you want anymore because you’ve been so focused on keeping the peace or meeting someone else’s needs.

If any of that sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and therapy can help you find your way back to yourself.

What Is Codependency, Really?

Codependency isn’t just about being “too nice” or giving too much. It’s a deep, often unconscious pattern where your sense of self-worth gets wrapped up in how needed, wanted, or approved of you are by someone else.

You might feel like:

• You’re responsible for other people’s happiness—or their pain.

• You can’t relax unless everyone around you is okay.

• Saying no feels selfish, and setting boundaries feels like abandonment.

• You stay in relationships longer than you should, hoping things will change.

• You’re afraid of being alone, even if the relationship isn’t healthy.

Codependency often starts early, especially if you grew up in a home where you had to take care of others, keep the peace, or earn love through being helpful. But it can show up later, too—especially after a toxic or one-sided relationship.

How Do I Know If I’m Codependent?

Many people don’t realize they’re codependent at first. You might just think of yourself as loyal, dependable, or “the strong one” in the relationship. But if you’ve been feeling exhausted, invisible, resentful, or like your needs never make the list, it might be worth taking a closer look.

Some signs of codependency include:

• Constantly putting others before yourself, even when it hurts

• Difficulty identifying your own needs or emotions

• Fear of conflict or abandonment

• Feeling responsible for other people’s choices or behaviors

• Struggling with self-esteem unless someone else validates you

Therapy is a space where we can gently untangle these patterns—and start building new ones rooted in self-trust, emotional clarity, and healthier connections.

What Kinds of Relationships Can Codependency Show Up In?

Codependency isn’t just a romantic issue. It can happen in all kinds of relationships:

• Romantic partners – staying in relationships where you feel unappreciated, emotionally neglected, or like your identity revolves around your partner.

• Parent-child dynamics – being the caretaker, emotional support, or “responsible one” in your family from a young age.

• Friendships – feeling like the one who’s always giving, helping, or saying yes—while rarely getting the same in return.

• Work relationships – overfunctioning at your job, people-pleasing your boss, or feeling like your value is tied to being needed.

These patterns aren’t a reflection of your character—they’re survival strategies that once helped you cope. In therapy, we work on shifting from survival to sovereignty—where your relationships feel mutual, respectful, and grounded in self-awareness.

What We Work on in Codependency Therapy

In codependency therapy, you’ll learn how to:

• Set boundaries without guilt

• Reconnect with your own needs and feelings

• Build self-worth that isn’t dependent on anyone else

• Stop over-functioning and start taking up space

• Navigate relationships with more confidence, clarity, and choice

We go at your pace. This isn’t about becoming “selfish” or cutting people off—it’s about creating relationships where you get to matter too.

Ready to Put Yourself Back on the List?

You don’t have to keep shrinking yourself to make others comfortable. And you don’t have to untangle these patterns alone. Whether you’re in the middle of a relationship that feels draining, recovering from a breakup, or just starting to recognize these patterns in yourself, codependency therapy can help you come home to who you are.

I offer individual therapy for codependency in Austin and across Texas through secure online sessions.

Reach out today to schedule a consultation or first session. Let’s get you reconnected—with yourself.