Signs He’s Not Looking for Marriage (And What That Means for You)

Signs He Will Never Marry You

Long-term relationships usually have an ideal pathway, and in many cases it may involve enhanced levels of commitment in the form of marriage. Yet what happens when it doesn't quite pan out in the way you had hoped? What if he never wanted to marry you in the first place? In this post, we’ll be going over the various signs he will never marry you and what you can do to pivot accordingly.

He Avoids Talking About the Future

Avoidance when it comes to speaking about future plans with you could be a huge indicator, as those couples who have plans for marriage will often discuss the next year, two years, five years, etc… with each other and with excitement. If he always changes the subject whenever future plans are brought up, it’s likely not a good sign for a marriage proposal to be presented anytime soon.

He is Reluctant to Make Joint Commitments

If he is reluctant to make joint commitments with you in the form of purchases or other financial commitments, such as purchasing a car or leasing an apartment or house together, this could be a sign of someone who has no interest in committing fully to you.

Your Relationship Isn't Public

If he hides your relationship from public view, whether that’s through preventing you from meeting friends, family members, co-workers, etc…; it could be a sign he has no intention of planning a future together.

Marriage Isn’t in His Vocabulary

If the word “marriage” is never brought up, it’s unlikely it will become a reality. Maybe he doesn't believe in the concept of marriage or he consistently criticizes it, you should likely take this as a sign he’s not interested in marriage whatsoever.

He Doesn’t Prioritize Your Relationship

Is he always prioritizing friends, hobbies, or personal interests over spending any bit of quality time with you? While it’s certainly healthy to have separate interests, if he consistently is choosing everything else over the relationship you have with one another, it’s likely he has no interest in growing the relationship further beyond what’s going on at the present moment. 

You Feel More Like Roommates

If emotional intimacy is lacking and your interactions with one another are mainly functional instead of romantic, this could be a red flag. A partner who envisions marriage in their future with you will likely seek a strong connection which can be felt emotionally, physically, and sexually.

Choose Sagebrush Counseling to Help You Navigate the Ins & Outs of Relationship

Being able to recognize these signs can certainly be painful, yet they do offer greater levels of insight into your partner’s decision making and reasons for said decision making. Communication is key in any relationship. Being able to discuss your feelings and expectations about marriage can help to clarify any uncertainties either of you may be having. As a reminder, it’s important to prioritize your happiness and not choose to settle for a relationship which is not meeting your needs and where baseline respect is not present.

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