Do I Have Commitment Issues? Take This Quiz & Find Out
Commitment can be complicated. Maybe you love the idea of a deep, lasting relationship—but when things start getting serious, you suddenly feel restless or uneasy. Maybe you’ve had amazing connections but somehow always find yourself pulling away. Or maybe you're just wondering:
"Why do relationships feel so hard for me?"
If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. So many people struggle with commitment, and there’s no shame in that! This fun, no-pressure quiz is here to help you reflect on your thoughts, feelings, and habits when it comes to relationships. No right or wrong answers—just some insight into you.
How to Play:
For each question, choose the answer that fits you best.
A) Always
B) Sometimes
C) Rarely
D) Never
Ready? Let’s do this! 🚀
How You Feel About Commitment
When a relationship starts getting serious, I start feeling uneasy or restless.
The idea of spending my life with one person sometimes freaks me out.
I worry that commitment means giving up my freedom.
I often feel the urge to push people away once we get too close.
Talking about the future with a partner makes me uncomfortable.
I’ve avoided putting a label on a relationship—even when it was obvious we were together.
I’ve caught myself liking someone until they liked me back… then I lost interest.
I secretly feel safer keeping my options open.
I’ve been in relationships where I was all in—until things got real.
I worry about picking the wrong person and being stuck.
Your Relationship Patterns
My relationships tend to fizzle out before they get serious.
I find reasons to distance myself when someone starts getting emotionally close.
I’ve been told I give mixed signals in relationships.
I’m more comfortable with casual dating than serious relationships.
I’ve ended relationships not because anything was wrong—but because I felt “trapped.”
I tend to be drawn to people who are emotionally unavailable.
I focus on a partner’s flaws when things start getting serious.
I’ve stayed in relationships even when I knew I wasn’t fully committed.
Friends or family have pointed out that I avoid serious relationships.
I have a history of “almost relationships” that never fully develop.
Your Emotional Reactions to Love & Intimacy
When someone says “I love you,” I panic a little.
I have a hard time letting my guard down emotionally.
I feel really uncomfortable relying on someone else emotionally.
I worry that if I commit, I’ll eventually feel stuck.
I’ve had serious doubts about relationships that seemed perfect on paper.
I sometimes push people away just to see if they’ll come back.
When a relationship ends, I usually feel relieved—even if I still care.
I start feeling distant when someone treats me too well.
I struggle to fully trust that someone will stick around for the long haul.
I feel safer being emotionally independent than truly connected.
How You Behave in Relationships
I’ve ghosted or pulled away from someone instead of having “the talk.”
I avoid serious conversations about the future with my partner.
I’ve been told I put up walls in relationships.
I make excuses to keep relationships from getting too deep.
I feel drained when a partner expects too much emotional consistency from me.
I like being affectionate—but only on my own terms.
I struggle with consistency when it comes to showing love and effort.
I’ve daydreamed about other people—even when I was in a good relationship.
I’ve broken up with someone simply because it felt too serious.
I don’t introduce partners to my family or friends unless I have to.
Your Thoughts on Long-Term Commitment
The thought of marriage (or long-term commitment) makes me uneasy.
I tell myself I’ll settle down someday… but I never quite feel ready.
I believe most relationships eventually become routine and boring.
I love the idea of love, but the reality of it sometimes feels overwhelming.
I worry that being with one person long-term will limit my personal growth.
I think love should be effortless—if it takes work, maybe it’s not “meant to be.”
I’ve idealized a partner at first, only to later focus on their flaws.
I like keeping my options open—even when I really like someone.
Deep down, I believe love is risky because it always leads to pain.
I sometimes wonder if I’m just not meant for relationships.
So… Do You Struggle with Commitment?
Count up your A’s, B’s, C’s, and D’s to see where you land:
Mostly A’s – Commitment Feels Like a Struggle for You.
You might have some deep-seated fears about love and connection. Maybe past relationships have made it hard to trust, or maybe independence just feels safer. Whatever the reason, it’s completely okay to feel this way—and you’re not stuck!
Mostly B’s – You Have Some Hesitation, But You’re Open to Love.
You’re not totally closed off, but you definitely feel some anxiety when it comes to commitment. The good news? You want connection, and with the right support, you can work through whatever holds you back.
Mostly C’s – You’re Pretty Comfortable with Commitment.
You might have a few fears here and there, but overall, you’re able to invest in relationships and work through the tough stuff.
Mostly D’s – Commitment Doesn’t Scare You.
You feel secure in love, trust your relationships, and embrace emotional closeness.
What If Commitment Feels Scary?
If you’re realizing that commitment feels tough, first of all—you’re not broken.
So many people struggle with relationships for so many reasons. You’ve been hurt before. You’re scared of losing yourself in love. Maybe deep down, you don’t know what you want.
Whatever it is, the fact that you’re thinking about it means you’re already on the path to figuring it out. And you don’t have to do that alone.
At Sagebrush Counseling, I help people like you work through commitment fears, relationship patterns, and emotional roadblocks to feel safe, secure, and confident in love—on their terms.
You deserve a relationship that feels good for you. Take the next step toward understanding what you want in love.
Final Thoughts: Counseling When You Have Commitment Issues
Commitment issues are usually tied to the avoidant attachment and other types of insecure attachment styles or it could be that you’re too independent for relationships. They’re just a clue, pointing you toward what needs extra care and attention. And with support, you can build a connection that feels good and fulfilling.
No pressure, no judgment. Support when you're ready—at Sagebrush, online counseling for anything relationships all over Texas.
