10 Couples Tips for a Stress-Free Holiday
The holiday season is a splendid time of year if you celebrate, and for couples, it can get strained because of the obligatory nature of family time, gifts, traveling, etc. For couples, navigating this busy season can feel particularly hard. Whether it's your first holiday together or your tenth, here are some expert tips to help you and your partner enjoy a stress-free holiday season.
1. Communicate Openly and Often
Communication is one of the most common topics brought up in couples counseling, and around the holidays, it can easily get pushed to the side. What traditions do you each want to create, new or old? Are there any holiday parties you both want to attend? How much do you plan to spend on gift,s and what about travel? Opening up these conversations early can help set expectations and prevent misunderstandings later.
2. Plan Your Budget Together
Financial stress is one of the top holiday stressors for couples. Planning your budget and getting on the same page. Figuring out how much you want to spend on gifts, travel, and holiday parties if you plan on hosting.
3. Allocate Time for Each Other and Yourself
Take time for yourself and also your partner. Don’t forget to practice self-care and take time away from the hustle and bustle of the busy season. If you wait until January to recharge your batteries, you’ll be tired and strained, but remember to take some time out with your partner for a walk, a movie, stargaze, or date night or find yourself needing time to recharge.
4. Set Boundaries with Family and Friends
The holidays often mean spending time with extended family; this is a challenge for some folks. Discuss with your partner how much family time you expect and are comfortable with. It’s okay to say no to specific gatherings or traditions if they cause stress. Set your boundaries.
5. Create New Traditions Together
One of the joys of being a couple is creating your traditions. Maybe it’s baking cookies, watching a holiday movie you enjoy, or volunteering at a local charity. New traditions can help strengthen your partnership or marriage and create shared memories that are yours to keep.
6. Be Flexible and Willing to Compromise
Flexibility is key during the holidays. Plans may change, unexpected guests may arrive, or you might need to split your time between family events. Discuss these possibilities beforehand, be flexible, and understand each other’s needs and feelings.
7. Manage Expectations
Getting caught up in the idea of a “perfect” holiday is easy, but the reality often falls short. Talk with your partner about your holiday expectations, including gifts, traditions, and family interactions. Be realistic about what you can do, and remember that it’s okay if things don’t go exactly as planned.
8. Show Appreciation and Gratitude
Express gratitude and appreciation for each other. Small gestures of love and thanks can significantly strengthen your relationship during the stressful holiday season.
9. Take Care of Your Physical and Mental Health
The holidays can take a toll on your physical and mental health. Make sure to maintain healthy habits together, like eating nutritious meals, exercising, and getting enough sleep. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to seek support from a counselor or therapist.
10. Reflect and Celebrate Your Accomplishments
As the year approaches, reflect on the challenges you’ve overcome and the milestones you’ve reached as a couple. Celebrate these accomplishments and set goals for the year ahead.
Schedule a Couples Session this Holiday
Surviving the holidays as a couple isn’t just about navigating challenges; it’s about enjoying the journey together. Communication is key to a happy marriage or partnership. If you need help this season with communication or want to discuss anything in your relationship, contact us today to schedule a session.
